Spanking Your Kids Is Not a Good Idea!!
Raising your child in a good way is better than spanking them. Don't be that parent who punish there kids, here are few advice from Hiveparenting..
A parent-child bond goes beyond the realms of definitions, yet psychologists around the globe delve into the subject and struggle to gain more insights into the do’s and the don’ts of positive parenting. The ordeal of goof parenting commences right from the pregnancy and seems to span a lifetime. Besides other resources, parenting magazines offer valuable insights for parents to be in preparing them for the challenge ahead. Usually, parents turn to trained psychologists for parenting advice only when faced with a difficult situation in raising toddlers/adolescents.
The importance of positive parenting is well acknowledged due to the fact that a number of
psychological issues that adults face in various life-situations trace back to the early childhood. A
controversial topic in this context is – Spanking!
Spanking means striking the child’s bottom with an open hand. The debate revolves around the question whether is it Okay to spank the child in order to discipline them? Psychologists concur that spanking as corporal punishment, however lightly, is not okay in any situation.
It might mislead the parents to believe that a smack can help achieve the immediate result in form of obedience but they fail to see the downside of it. There is a good deal of evidence to support the fact that spanking, in any form or intensity, tends to harm the overall well-being of the child. It promotes aggressive behavior, criminal tendency, anti-social behavior and not to mention the physical injury. A more shocking fact to consider is that – an abused child is prone to become an abusive adult in most cases.
Parents should try all possible alternatives to avoid spanking, as it simply does not aid in any way.
Psychologists recommend that kids respond well to positive reinforcement. Whenever they do
something good, never forget to praise them or at least mention that they did well, kids tend to look forward to the next praise.
Use of kind yet firm behavior also helps, e.g. if the kid is throwing a tantrum, instead of losing temper, get down to the kid’s level and make an eye contact and firmly yet softly tell the child – “I want you to listen to me and do as I say….“ and explain the consequences in a logical manner, allow time for the kid to comprehend it.
In situations where the parent somehow lost the temper and hit the child, always make an effort to make amends with the child and explain what made them behave in that manner.
If trapped in a situation where the child provokes the parent to lose temper, withdrawal is the way out for the parent, by telling the child calmly that “We can talk about it when you are ready to talk more respectfully” and walk away from the scene. With toddlers, try and distract them instead of smacking or spanking.
There would be plenty other ways that might work with given parent-child situation to prevent
spanking, discover them and apply them diligently to avoid spanking.
Enable the child to come up with the desired behavior on his own. Such approach will go way too deep than just eliciting the desired behavior; it will groom the child’s personality to become a more responsible and emotionally stable human being in all stages of life.